Conscious touch and tantric massage can be a road to connect with our sensuality, awaking the forces, lighting the fire and letting the power of Eros energy flow. But we can also play with other forms too, like Kink, to connect with the same forces. With Kink we find several tools to use. These have followed humans through their long journey in history. The power of rituals. The use of masks to connect with the archetype gods and their forces, in fertility rites. The potential of Costume to transform and to leave the profane space to enter the sacred,. The Carnival in ancient times was a door for people to cross through and break the rules of convention and for few days live out their fantasy. It was a release from the tension and struggles of daily life. So to become somebody else in a cathartic ritual. The power of transformation, the encounter with my alter ego or erotic persona is in the core of Kink practices and BDSM.
The word Fetish comes from an object that gives power to a shaman With kink this object turns into an object or part of the body that empowers and activates sexual energy, like leather clothes, boots, high heel, collars, several parts of the body and the list can be long. Fetish can be understood as a force that transforms reality, a magic tool, like for the shaman, to empower myself, protect me like a shield or enhance any aspect of my personal erotic character.
Eros on Fire
The common view regarding sex is that you become stimulated, erect, and ejaculate all in a short time for the relief of tension and for sake of pleasure. It is a narrow point of view and leaves a lot to be desired for a powerful erotic energy that has the potential to heal and transform. In tantra, ejaculation control is cultivated and you go beyond sex into a new realm of awareness.
Kink is term used to describe a wide range of sexual activities that are considered unconventional or unorthodox. Tantra comes from ancient indian tradition, that means in sanscrit: weaving and expansion. Tantra takes the approach that one should not only not reject the body and its desires, but actually embrace them on the road to enlightenment. Tantra shares the view that sexual intercourse can be a sacrament and a means of spiritual transformation. Tantra is the transformatin of vital energy in all its permutations, ultimately towards the goal of spiritual enlightenment. In this context sexual relations become sacred.
Tantra and Kink together help us to know our light and shadow as two sides of the same coin. Two aspects of Eros. As we look at them as two separate paths, we see that they share some common elements like, raising sexual energy, being consensual, based on trust, comunication and a deep connection with one’s partner .
I myself come from the Theatre world and for many years have explored eroticism on the stage through comedy in the kinky scene. Till one day the play became real and I became the master of my own very real dungeon that tantra transformed into my temple.